I want to make a difference....

- sent to me by a friend. TQ Ida Shah for sharing this useful knowledge.

Dear friends and families

I attended a city survival training organised by my Bank. The speaker was Kapten Bala who is very well known; “Di mana ada bala, di situ ada Bala”. He is superbly funny, pleasant, knowledgeable, experienced, and most importantly, a hero. K. Bala said everyone who attended the training that day were “the chosen ones”. I hope I am the chosen one to make a difference.

I WANT to make a difference. So I wanna share with you what I learned from the training. Kindly note that the training was for ladies but the information is useful to all:

- identify your Green, Yellow and Red Zone wherever you are. Green being the safest and Red where there is the highest risk

- rapists (I will generalize all perpetrators for this purpose as rapists) will attack if there is time and opportunity. Cut time, cut opportunity and there will be no crime

- rapists generally don’t bring items to kill women/girls, they normally use what the women is wearing/carrying; eg. bra, panties, plastic bag… but I am not saying don’t wear bra and panties please

- if ever you were in a bad situation involving rapists (nauzubillah), know some of these tricks:

o “play the game” as they say it. For sure you cant beat them/him, so play the game. When the time is right, attack eg. bite, kick etc

o squinch your eyes when they want to blindfold you, as hard as you can. This will actually leave a gap at the bottom (of the blindfold) for you to see

o cross your hands when they want to tie your hands. This way you can move your hands when you need to just to keep the blood flowing. If blood doesn’t flow to your hands, it will become numb and in a few hours time, your hands are ‘dead’, and may be amputated

o one woman actually escaped from being hurt cos she played dead

o pretending you are epileptic and have a fit (sawan babi), will save you (insya allah)

o sometimes communication does work

o when the guy is strangling you, harden your neck by clenching your teeth together

o if they stuff rice, tissue for eg. inside your mouth, try not to swallow it. You will get die from choking, and if killing you is not their intention, the perpetrators might not be charged

o the weakest part of the hand is the finger, if the guy grabs you or strangles you, try to flick his fingers firmly. Automatically the hands will let go

- teach your kids esp your daughters about life, boyfriends, making friends etc… you never know

- if a male colleague, friend, or boyfriend sends you/your daughter back home, ask him to wait for your sms that you are safely inside the house. Its for your benefit as well as his (trust this)

- general rule of thumbs: know when, what and where to speak

- get to know your neighbours, cos they are the ones who can come to you in 5 minutes if something bad happens to you at home. Make a pact with your neighbours in terms of what signal to use if any of you are in trouble

- for those ladies who are staying alone, period, or husbands away for a while, don’t make it obvious

o hang some men’s clothes together with yours

o avoid routines (same time shut off lights, same time comes home from work, for example)

o if someone calls your landline, make sure make it noisy and lively in the background as though you are not alone

- if you get the same bundle of catalogues for some period of time or if your mails are missing for sometime, it could possibly mean your house is being watched

- if you have to walk alone to your car, try not to walk directly to the car; make a zig zag, L shape

- if ever your child is kidnapped (nauzubillah), try to find him/her immediately in the next few hours after your find out. Don’t delay. Report later

- apply damage control wherever necessary!

I guess that’s all for now. Ladies especially and Gents, please please be extra wary.

At the end of the day, it’s Allah’s or your God’s (for non Muslims) will. Our job is to pray to Him for protection, mercy and guidance and so on. At the end of the day, we leave it to Him.

If you also want to make a difference, share and forward this to your loved ones, friends, colleagues etc.

Thanks and regards,

Ida Shah